Ugh!

[domino43]

I am such a KLUTZ!  So, last night I was slicing up some potatoes to make me some French Fries.  And stupid me wasn't paying attention and cut my thumb.  Now, I don't mean, like close to a paper cut size cut.  I mean, I cut INTO my thumb.  Like, If I had cut about 1/4" more, I'd be missing a peice of my thumb.  Bled through two paper towels before I remembered that we had some gauze and tape hiding in the living room.  My thumb's still kinda tingly/numb and hurts a bit.

And I wanted to rant about something that I forgot the other day that's been bothering me lately.  So I'll do that now.


*begin rant*

Okay, so for at least the last two months (at least, that's when I found out) my mom has been dating this guy.  That's not where I have a problem.  Mom and Dad have been divorced for 5 years, so, whatever.

But then last week, my dad said something about this guy had moved in with her.  I don't have a problem with that, per se.  What I have a problem with is that he has only met one or two of us.  I don't even think my one brother knows the guy exists.  You don't move some guy into your house when he and ALL you kids haven't met.  I mean, seriously!  What if one, or more, of us just doesn't get along with him?  Then what?

And then, I got my b-day card from her last week (FINALLY!) and she'd signed it "Love, mom, David and Austin"  Austin is my little brother.  So I'm guessing this David is her b/f.   WTF?!  He's never met me and she's signing his name to my b-day card?  There is something seriously wrong with that.

I'm almost to the point where, if we don't meet him soon and she has us up for a holiday like last year, I'm going to tell her I'm not going.  I mean, I'm not having an intimate family holiday dinner with some guy I've never met, just cuz she's shtuping him!  When I had a b/f I didn't bring him to any kind of family thing cuz they'd never met him.  I mean, come on!

I don't know, maybe it's just me, but something seems wrong about this whole thing...  He's probably part of her cult!  (read: She goes to a nudist place I'm convinced is a cult.  It made her move away from her family and alienate pretty much anyone that doesn't agree with them.  Scary.)

*end rant*


Guess that's it for now.

OH! and {{BIG SQUEEZING HUGS}} to lotrjunkie009 for the 1776 icons!  They are SO COOL!!  That SO made my day!  *still running around the room jumping up and down excitedly*

Comments

[orygun-forest.livejournal.com]

You knucklehead. I hope you are keeping that thing very clean and all. I hope you don't need stitches, kiddo. Can anyone take you to an emergency room to get it checked out? I know, I sound like a MOTHER HEN, don't I? I just worry about you, is all.

As for your mom....yeah, she needs to let you kids meet this guy but how often do you see her to begin with hon? You need to tell her how much this bothers you and why. If you keep it bottled up and all the next time you see her, instead of being able to talk to her, all you two are going to end up doing is FIGHTING and that does NO ONE any good, know what I mean? Just a thought....

[domino43.livejournal.com]

Most people would have gone to get stitches and if I would have gone to the ER they would have given me some, but I'm not big on getting something done unless I need it. I've got it alcohol cleaned, gauzed and taped like crazy. It's stuck back together and other than the tingling and slight pain, it's fine. Come on, I'm the one that had a blood gushing concussion and didn't even have a Dr. look at it. I can handle it.

As far as mom goes, even if I were to tell her how much it was bothering me, we'd fight then. And we'll fight the next time we see each other anyway, cuz we fight every time we talk. We can't talk to each other like civilized people for more than about 10 minutes, if that long. We just cannot see eye-to-eye on anything and fight about everything. We've never gotten along. We have very different views on most things. Especially moral views (which is where most of the fighting comes in), so...

I mean, yeah, we don't see her very often, though she has a job and a car, so if she wanted to see us, she could. She is the one that moved away, not us. I think SHE needs to make the effort.

The holiday thing is, of course, assuming she even asks us over this year. She'll probably spend her Thanksgiving & Christmas with her naked friends. (*shudder*) Or off with this guy's family. Not that she'd miss me for the holidays anyway. I mean, I did have to remind her several times to send my card that she told me she had. After she told me she'd forgotten it was my b-day at all. Me not there wouldn't be a big loss to her. In fact, if I tell her how much this thing is bothering me, she'll probably tell me not to come over ever anyway.

[orygun-forest.livejournal.com]

Well, me coming from a VERY DYSFUNCTIONAL family myself, I can't tell you much about your mom, especially since I've never MET the woman and all but...it sounds like she either decided she didn't want to be a parent anymore OR....she's going through a HUGE Mid-life crisis ( and people ONLY think that men do that...HA! ) and who knows when she's going to get over it. If I were you, since you two don't get along very well anyhow, I'd just let it go. Why let it upset you so if you two don't see eye to eye in the first place? It's just a BAD waste of your energy that could be much better spent in POSITIVE things that you CAN do something about and have some kind of control over, know what I mean?

Hey, I've had to do that with my sisters. They are NO LONGER in MY life due to I want it that way because all they do is BLAME ME and my MOM for ALL of their problems in life and I just finally one day just said FUCK IT, if you guys can't get over shit and MOVE ON with your lives after all of these years, it's YOUR problem and NOT mine.

So, the ONLY sisters I have now are my VERY close friends. You CAN'T pick your family but...you CAN pick your friends.

[domino43.livejournal.com]

Oh, she's most DEFINITELY going through a HUGE mid-life crisis. I don't know why I can't let it go. Anything, really. She's my mom, you know? I can't completely avoid her, no matter how much I may want to sometimes. I know, id doesn't make much sense. But deep down, I'm a family oriented person. Even if I can't stand them most of the time.

I just think it would be common courtesy for her to have him meet us before moving him into her house, ya know?

[orygun-forest.livejournal.com]

Yeah it would but....she has obviously, a LONG time ago, decided that her LIFE comes first and TO HELL with others who wanna tell her how to live hers.

My mom went through something similar ( but not nudist stuff ) after her and my dad got divorced. She and I were NOT close for a LONG, LONG time. I was off doing my drugs and rebelling, she was off sleeping around, drinking, hardly home, etc. It was NOT a FUN WAY to be brought up, that's for sure.

But once I moved out of the house and we got away from one another for a few years, things turned around. Parental relationships are NEVER EASY when there has been a divorce, death or what have you in the family. Sad but true. I have no idea if you and your mom will ever reconcile. I hope that one day, like me and my mom, you do. But who knows? I know it must hurt but....for now, you need to let it go. I know it's hard, but hey....don't let her fucked up life FUCK YOU UP! It's not worth it, it really isn't.

[domino43.livejournal.com]

I have no idea if you and your mom will ever reconcile.

See, That's the thing. We CAN'T reconcile. We've NEVER gotten along. Ever. Not since I hit the double digits and really started forming my own opinions on things. I never had to fit in, and she's one of those people that HAS to fit in, no matter what. You know? We're just too different to get along for very long. I think our record is 2 hours.

[domino43.livejournal.com]

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